Odilia Carmen Chirica

One may think it's the unmet needs and desires the cause of broken relationships. And we are tired and mostly unwilling to satisfy someone else's needs before or in the detriment of our own. Needs and desires make us walk and even run on purpose at times. But fears.. Oh my! We hide, run, jump, climb, walk on bodies... whatever is needed. To escape our fears. And what are fears anyway? Well, unintegrated experiences from or since early childhood. Things we haven`t completely understood that hurt and frightened us and that we never want to repeat. But guess what? They will be repeated on and on and on... Because we live in their shadows. We project from them and perceive through them. We want to escape them so badly that anything as close as a resemblance will trigger us into great discomfort and stress. Say, one is afraid of spiders for example... God forbid you joke with "a spider on you!" unless you want one to have a heart attack o...

The "right" relationship requires not a perfect mind/physical/soul match but a dedication to love beyond the limits of our common beliefs and personal needs. A process of evolution and break through the social, cultural, religious, human conditionings, etc... A dedication to support each other through common understanding or one another when one fails to see clearly or understand the "right" way, for the purpose of growth, ultimate freedom and happiness. First and foremost achieving individual balance and happiness and only after happiness in two as a couple. If that can be possibly achieved together, if not, and if the process of growth and learning is ended, then accepting to part ways in search for a new process. ...in truth,  OdiliaCarmen

We seek. We find. We process (compare, analyze, comprehend) similarities and differences. We reach to a higher perspective. The one that reveals to us that differences are mere illusions, that all is connected, all is one. Life is not better anywhere else (whatever corner of the world, that is). The same struggles goes within each human being. We might see them on different scales, in different colors, but only because we judge them from the outside. We measure them from our standing point, which is always a comparing point. What is within cannot be measured from without. Thus what is within may be found only when the search without is finalized. When the process is ended what is within becomes one with what is without. The rest is creation. When peace, love, truth is within, you cannot experience the opposites without. No matter what seems to happen around you. No matter where you are. No matter whom you encounter. It is the journey of every human being. (I dare to say, of every livin...

We weren`t born to suffer but neither to be happy doing what we want and like on this earth.. or as others would like to claim "we were born to love". We were born to experience! From experience to understand. And from understanding to evolve. Our confinements are not permanent. Nothing is. With evolution comes change. If change is not here... it is not its time. Yet! We still need some understanding! ...in truth,  OdiliaCarmen

Stop reading and following all quotes, posts, books and whatever else entitled "How to" this or that. Whomever teaches you THE steps is in fact robbing you of the whole perspective by offering you a mere point of view to cling on. SELF is to be uncovered through self observation and self experiencing as well as the observation of all that is "out"of self. Someone else's experience isn't and will never be your experience. It's your understanding (of someones else`s experience), not your replication of it, that will integrate it's values into your beingness. ...in truth,  OdiliaCarmen

You are and always have been all that you see. All of it. Wake up! ..in truth,  OdiliaCarmen

"In the last century, a tourist from the States visited the famous Polish rabbi, Hafez Hayyim. He was astonished to see that the rabbi’s home was only a simple room filled with books. The only furniture was a table and a bench.  “Rabbi, where is your furniture?” asked the tourist.   “Where is yours?” said Hafez.  “Mine? But I’m passing through. I’m only a visitor here.”  “So am I.”" from the book "Song Of The Bird" by Anthony de Mello ...in truth,  OdiliaCarmen